Real outings, in public, on your terms

The ground rules

• Meet in a public place with other people around — never a home, hotel, or private vehicle on a first outing.
• Tell a friend or family member where you're going, who with, and when you expect to be back.
• Arrange your own transportation there and back so you can leave at any time.
• Keep your phone charged, and keep your drink and belongings with you.
• Video or voice chat before you meet if you want to confirm someone is who they say they are.
• Never send money, gift cards, or personal financial details to someone you met here.
• Trust your gut. If something feels off, leave — you don't owe anyone an explanation.
• Report anyone who pressures you to change plans to a private location.

Good public outings

These are the only kinds of plans you can post — each one puts you somewhere with staff, crowds, or both.

• 🍽️ Restaurant / café

  Pick a spot with staff and other diners around.

• ☕ Coffee walk

  Daytime, busy street, easy to leave whenever.

• 🏋️ Gym / fitness class

  Meet inside the facility, not the parking lot.

• 🎾 Sports / pickleball

  Public courts or leagues with other players present.

• 🚴 Bike ride

  Stick to popular, well-travelled routes in daylight.

• 🥾 Walk / hike

  Choose busy trails and share your route with a friend.

• 🎬 Movie

  Meet in the lobby and buy your own ticket.

• 🍻 Bar / brewery

  Watch your drink, set a limit, arrange your own ride.

• 🎤 Concert / live music

  Meet at the venue entrance, not a private pre-party.

• 🎪 Market / festival

  Great first outing — open, crowded, low pressure.

• 🖼️ Museum / gallery

  Quiet but staffed and public throughout.

• 🎨 Class / workshop

  Book through the venue so there's a roster.

• 🤝 Volunteering

  Organized groups mean built-in supervision.

• 📍 Other public place

  Must be a public, open venue with other people around.